My best friend had been engaged for 5 years, she’d already had one wedding postponed after falling pregnant and a 2nd due to the lockdown in October 2020. So when she told me that she was finally going to get married in December I was so incredibly happy for her and her fiancé!
The rule of 15 guests to attend a wedding in December meant, unfortunately, myself and many other close family and friends of the couple would not be allowed to attend. Although of course, I was sad that I was not going to be there to see them say ‘I do’, I quickly realised that in a year of miserable news, we all had something to celebrate! And how fantastic was that!
Whether you’re a bride or groom thinking about a micro wedding (but nervous about letting some guests down) or you’re an uninvited guest who can no longer attend. Here are my top tips (from my experience) on how you can still very much involved in a wedding without being able to physically be there!!
Be there something old, something new, something borrowed something blue!
We all know the tradition something old, something new, something borrowed something blue! why not give or borrow the bride a gift that is old, new, borrowed or blue that they can wear on the day. I secretly found out what my friend didn’t have and she mentioned she needed earrings to go with her bridal headpiece. Sending a gift is a lovely keepsake for the bride or groom and a way that the couple can feel that you are still there with them on the day!
Live Stream your friends and family! Your whole guest list can still be there virtually!
There are many ways your friends or family can still be a part of your big day! Live streams are super easy to set up so guest can ‘virtually’ be there. You can invite your whole guest if you like, platforms like zoom are fantastic. Your guests can still dress up to the nines with a glass of fizz!
Be a ‘Groupie’.
Create a WhatsApp group with your guests who can’t make it. Keep them updated with pics of your dress fittings, hair and make-up trials and all your ideas for your wedding! They will love being involved and you will have your squad by your side for those hard decisions on whether to choose white, off white or cream ;-)
Share your wedding day!
Have a designated person in the whatsapp group who is attending the wedding who can also post photos or videos of the special moments throughout your wedding day. They will be so happy to share in the joy you felt on the day by looking at the photos.
Be there outside of the wedding venue to throw confetti
If the restrictions permit and you don’t live to far from the wedding venue, why not wait outside for the ceremony to finish. Throw confetti and congratulate the newlyweds. It will mean so much to the new bride and groom!
Have a small gathering the night before.
Depending on the restrictions, organise a small gathering with your closest guests who can’t make it. Enjoy a prosecco and a garden get together in a well-ventilated space so you can help the bride or groom prep for their big day!
Be a part of their ‘Glam Squad’ and see them in their dressed up in their wedding outfits!
Be a part of their Glam Squad and help the bride or groom get ready the morning of the wedding! You will see get to see them in their dressed up in their wedding outfit and you can capture that social distancing selfie for the gram too!
Share your wedding menu!
Share you wedding menu with your uninvited guests so they can enjoy the same meal on the day too! Or order extra slices of cake, cupcakes or your sweet treats to send to your uninvited guests for them to enjoy on your wedding day.
Capture your special day.
Book the professional photographer and videographer so you have those special moments to share after your wedding with your guests.
The hardest thing for a bride and groom having a micro wedding will be not having all their closest friends and family at their wedding. Letting close ones down or letting them know they can’t be their will not be easy and will cause a lot of anxiety and stress. Be as understanding and supportive as possible. Keep in contact with the bride and groom you can still be very much a part of their big day.
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